27 Confidence Hacks Psychology of Attraction

1. Cold Showers
a. Cold showers, or bathing in water that lowers your body temperature has been
known to help athletes overcome their fears and increase their confidence for
years. It’s a form of resilience training. This will also increase your blood
circulation to internal organs, help with maintaining a healthy weight, and is
certainly associated with training your willpower - because taking a cold shower
every morning isn’t easy!
2. Progressive Desensitization
a. This is a big word for slowly getting used to something you’re scared of. Let’s say
you’re afraid of snakes. Here’s the process you would go through to overcome
your fear with progressive desensitization:
i. Look at pictures of snakes on Google Images
ii. Talk about snakes with your friends
iii. Go to a zoo and visit the snake room
iv. Put your hand against the glass window of a snake
v. Find a friend who has a snake and ask to hold the snake in a cage or tank
vi. Hold the snake in your hand
vii. Let the snake wrap itself around your legs or arms
3. Do something you’re afraid of
a. Progressive Desensitization is like going to a college class to learn a new
language; you learn slowly over time how to deal with new situations. Doing the
thing you’re most afraid of is like moving to a new country to learn a new
language; you have to learn quicker. Afraid of Skydiving? Go sign up; where I live
it’s like $200 for a once-in-a-lifetime experience and to overcome that fear. Just
skip the pulling off the bandaid slowly and rip it off!
4. Get Rejected
a. The best way to overcome rejection is to get rejected a lot. There’s something
called the 100-person challenge and it’s where you aim to talk to 100 new people
within 30 days. By the end of 30 days, you’ll have built up your conversation skills
you’re ready to try challenge #2. That is the 100 day challenge, only you have to
talk to 100 cute girls and ask them out on dates. YOU WILL GET REJECTED
MANY TIMES. However, you’ll build up your confidence and slowly get better at
handling rejection.
5. Visualize what you want
a. One of the best ways to become more confident is to visualize what you want.
Think of someone who has no confidence; one of their largest characteristic traits
is not knowing what they want. Instead; flip it around and know what you want to
increase your confidence!
6. Affirm yourself every day
a. Use affirmations to help yourself visualize! Just say stuff like this to yourself, write
it down, or even think it:
i. I am in control of my life
ii. Good things are going to happen today
iii. I’m going to help a lot of people today
iv. I was made for greatness
v. Opportunities will arise today that make me better
7. Lift Heavy
a. Lifting heavy weights will increase your testosterone levels, which of course is
correlated to confidence levels. Also, it’ll make you feel more confident because
you are literally becoming a better version of yourself!
8. Dress Better
a. If you dress sloppy, you’ll think of yourself as sloppy. Wear something that shows
you off, and you’ll have to have the confidence to back it up! Do some laundry or
go shopping if needed :)
9. Pick your music wisely
a. Listening to music can train your brain to think certain ways. If you’re listening to
music where the main chorus is “I just can’t get anywhere in life” guess what?
You won’t! Your brain remembers the tiniest things and you can prime it with
music. Instead, listen to uplifting, powerful, and encouraging music to become
more confident!
10. Make a self-esteem playlist
a. To get an even better effect, make a playlist with the kind of music discussed in
the previous step so you can turn it on for an instant dopamine and confidence
boost anytime you need it.
11. Good posture
a. Practice good posture, it’ll be healthier and you’ll also have more confidence.
12. Good body language
a. Keep your body language open, never cross your arms, stand straight up, and
always keep your chin up. Body language is actually one of the things you can
“fake till you make” because your brain will realize your posture and send
hormones accordingly. If you have confident body language, your brain will
release confident hormones.
13. 30 second victory pose
a. When you are feeling down, stand with your feet about 2x shoulder height, put
your hands in the air as high as they will go, making your body an X and lift your
head up. Now, take a big breath in, and let it out really slowly. While doing this;
recite an affirmation and you’ll instantly be more confident. Professional athletes
are trained to perform this “power pose” before an event to prime their brain for
14. Keep the best, forget the rest (selective memory)
a. Use Selective Memory to forget all the bad things that have happened in the past
and keep the best. This allows you to stay optimistic and will help with your
confidence in the future. You can’t be confident if you don’t have something to
look forward to; and you can’t have something to look forward to if you’re dwelling
on the past.
15. Write down your insecurities and joke about the ones you can’t
a. Here’s a simple 3-step process to help with your insecurities.
i. Write down all your insecurities; things you think other people will make
fun of you about.
ii. The ones that you don’t have control over; circle them and find a way to
joke about them. I can’t change my weird hairline; so I joke about it and
over time… I’m just not worried about it anymore.
iii. The ones you can control; underline them and come up with a way to
change them. I can control my weight to an extent. I can control my
haircut. I can control my rudeness.
16. Join a fight-club, MMA, or other contact sport
a. This is related to weightlifting, but will increase your testosterone even more.
Like, it’ll skyrocket your testosterone levels. It’s been tested and hand-to-hand
combat with other guys is in the top 3 ways to increase your testosterone and
that will increase your confidence. Be careful though… there’s a thin line between
confidence and arrogance!
17. Intermittent Fasting
a. This will help you gain control of your eating levels; as well as give you CRAZY
motivation. For me, I have insane confidence when I am ready to take on the
day… and that comes with motivation. Just don’t eat for around 4-5 hours after
you wake up and don’t eat ~4 hours before you go to bed. Also, talk to a doctor
before making any major changes to your diet - as this is not for everyone.
18. Get off Social media so much
a. Being on social media; and seeing the best parts of other people’s lives will
ultimately depress you and make you wonder why you aren’t living such a cool
life. The secret is that people who post things like that deal with the same stuff
you deal with - they just don’t share it. Stop priming your brain with unsuccessful
comparison. Spend more time having fun :)
19. Surround yourself with confident people
a. Everyone knows the famous saying by Jim Rohn “You are the sum of the 5
people you spend most of your time around”. Well, it’s true, and it works for
confidence too. Some people think they can trick themselves; sticking around
people who think they are worthless so they feel confident by comparison… but
you want to be around people who are even more confident than you are and
want to be!
20. Get rid of negative people
a. There are a lot of negative people in this world, and letting them hold you back
just by being around you is something you’ll regret when you’re 80. Even if
they’re family, find a way to spend less time around them ASAP.
21. Celebrate your wins!
a. I don’t mean gloating, but when you have a win… publicly celebrate it! Let people
know you had an achievement and are celebrating it. It’ll give you motivation to
keep working hard and also boost your confidence in your own abilities!
22. Keep your goals secret
a. Some people actually talk more than they walk. The reality is that most people do
this. Be different by not talking about your goals to everyone; because
psychologically we get more satisfaction from telling people than actually
achieving them. So, keep your goals secret until you have the meat to show.
23. Wake up every morning with 5 things you’re grateful for
a. Very easy one, but will put you in the mindset that you’re blessed and grateful.
This primes your brain for even more great things to happen in the day. Is it
easier to be confident when you wake up and go “I don’t have any feet, the sun
won’t shine today, and I’m hungry” or to say “I’m so glad I have arms, that there
is grey sky so I can appreciate the blue sky, and I’m going to have the best
breakfast in a few minutes”? You choose!
24. Compliment Others
a. Complimenting others not only makes them feel good, but it also makes you feel
wonderful! By helping other people out, you’ll slowly gain their favor and also
increase your confidence! It works, trust me :)
25. Know how to accept compliments
a. Along with giving compliments, you also need to know how to respectfully accept
them. Most people shrug them off “yeah, thanks, but really it wasn’t me”. I don’t
mean to boast, but freaking own that compliment. “Yeah, you’re right, I love these
shoes, they feel comfortable and I knew I had to buy them!”.
26. Read
a. Feed your brain knowledge and it’ll reward you with confidence. Knowing more
things and understanding the world better always helps with confidence.
27. Learn
a. Everyone is curious in some manner. If you don’t learn, you’re opening your brain
for depression. Instead, learn something new everyday and keep those itchy
neurons firing to increase your confidence!


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